Stepping Out 

  a student's guide to education beyond the classroom


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The following are a few commonly asked questions about the process of stepping out.  For more questions and answers, see the concerns section.  

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How do I convince my parents this is a good idea?
How do I finance this?
How do I convince my school to let me take time off?
I have already applied to college, now how do I get a deferral?
How do I get credit?
How do I use stepping out as a resume enhancer?
How do I find programs that are right for me?
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How do I convince my parents this is a good idea?

All parents are different.  Some may be supportive right off the bat, others may look at you like you're crazy.  My guess is most are somewhere in the middle.  

Regardless of what your parents are like, here are some tips:
  • Involve them from the get-go.  A "Mom and Dad I've been thinking about taking time off of school and here's why" will probably work better than "Hey Dad, I'm not going to college next year and I just bought a plane ticket to Mexico."  This is an extreme example, but the point is, let them know!   
  • Include them in the planning process.  This goes with the first tip.  Let your parents know early on, and include them in the planning process.  Be willing to compromise with them; if they are worried about  your safety, do not make them suffer more by insisting on a one-way ticket to Asia.  Instead, find a program or opportunity you both feel good about.  
  • It they are worried about you, find out why.  (Are they worried that you won't return to school, is it financial, is it for your safety, or is it because of what the neighbors will think?)  Once you know the root of their hesitation, go from there.  Acknowledge their worry, and figure out ways to reduce it.  As mentioned in the previous tip, be willing to compromise with them.   Also, remember that parents will probably have some anxiety about you leaving, regardless whether it is for college, work, or an adventure.                                                             
  • Explain to them the different benefits of taking time off.  Check out the why section if you need more ideas.  Although stepping out is growing in popularity, it is not a widespread phenomenon.  Many people still believe that if you take time off you will never go back, that it is pointless, that it too expensive, etc. Emphasize the ways you will personally benefit. 
  • Send them to the parents page for more info.
  • If it's the truth, explain to them why you need a break from school.  If you're feeling burnt out on school, let your parents know.  Explain to them that you will be able to be a better student if you can take a break from academia.      
  • Be mature.  This includes having a plan, going over all the what-ifs, and basically assuring your parents you are acting responsibly and intelligently as you make your decision.  For example, tell them "I'd like to do x, y, and z, here's how I plan to finance it, here's why I want to do it, and I've already applied to colleges that allow me to defer a year."  Let them know that you are making a thoughtful decision and have plans for your time off.  Reassure them that it is not time "off", but time "on"; time for you to explore a variety of different education opportunities, as well as to grow and develop as an individual.                        
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How do I finance this?

An initial hesitation for many people looking to step out is the cost.  One may wonder: how can I afford to travel?  Where do those people who are always taking off to new places get their money from?  Some students have parents who support them financially, and they do not need to worry about this part.  However, if this is not the case for you, or, if you'd prefer to take responsibility for yourself, here are some tips for financing:
  • Figure out what you are able and willing to spend.  Do you need to save up money during your year off for college or other expenses?  Can you afford to break even?  Will your parents or anyone else be supporting you?  Look at all the factors in your life to decide what your budget is for your time off.  
  • Figure out how much everything will cost.  While there are a lot of unknown variables, try to add up costs as best you can.  This expense depends on a number of different factors: Are you planning to work somewhere?  Are you hoping to just travel?  Does the program you are going with offer room and board?  How much is airfare?  Health insurance?  Do you need to buy a passport and visa?  Calculate your expenses, and, in the process, assume the higher price.  It is far better to return home with extra money than to run out. 
  • Once you know how much money you need, figure out how you are going to make that money.   If you are planning to go overseas, realize that it is far easier to make and save money in the US than to try and make it elsewhere.  Work visas can be hard to get, and, especially if you live at home, you should be able to save up money even by working a minimum wage job (assuming you do not have a lot of other bills to pay).   In Great Britain, where one in five students take a Gap Year between high school and college, it is common for students to spend the first six months working to finance whatever it is they want to do for the second six months.    
  • Look for programs that include room and board, or even pay you.  Some programs (like Americorps or Camp Adventure) cover your travel expenses and your living expenses.  They also include health insurance.  If you are worried about money, look for opportunities where you can earn enough to get by, or where you do not have to worry about room and board.  
  • Fundraise.  This is a great option if you are partaking in volunteer work or some other sort of "do-good" program, especially if a large part of the program fee goes directly to helping the community where you will be working.  Send out letters to friends and families asking for donations.  Hold a bake sale.  Be creative!
  • Look for scholarships and/or grants.  Depending on what it is you are planning to do with your time off, scholarships and/or grants may exist.  The Rotary Club (contact the club closest to your hometown) sponsors students going abroad, either for a year of study in a regular school, or a three to six month language study.   
  • What about student loans?  The date you will need to start paying back your student loans is something to consider when taking time off.  Many loans have a three to six month period during which you can be out of school before you must start to pay them back.  This is something to look into if you are planning to take a few months or longer off from school and have loans.  Consider doing a program that allows you to defer loans (Peace Corps, Americorps, and Jesuit Volunteer Corps are a few) if necessary.  Some students have also used their student loan money to finance their time off.   While I would recommend trying to get other financing if possible, using student loans (which tend to have lower interest rates) is an option.  
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How do I convince my school to let me take time off?

Your strategy really depends on your school.  If you are in college, talk to someone in administration.  Most colleges allow you to take time off, although some have strict policies around receiving credit elsewhere during that time.  If you are in high school, meet with your counselor.  

Figure out if you can take some courses online or during the summer in order to make up for lost time.  Head to the programs page for  a list of places that offer distance education and online courses (even degrees) for high school and college students--you may be able to make up for lost time online.  Also, many universities offer online courses.  Check with your university or potential university.

In my experience, your best option is to talk to someone in your school as early as possible, and approach them with a clear plan of what you are doing with your time off and how it is educational.  By talking to a counselor the spring before, I was able to miss the first two weeks of my junior year of high school to go to Argentina.  I met with my teachers for the following year, did the work I was going to miss over the summer, and started school with no problems.  

Be clear, mature, thoughtful, and plan ahead!  If your school sees that you are serious and responsible with what you are doing, you are more likely to get permission.  

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I have already applied to college, now how do I get a deferral?

According to Gail Reardon, founder of Taking Off, over 3000 colleges and universities now accept deferrals.  She explains, "The deferral process is not automatic.  Students accept the college of their choice and then write to request a deferral.  Some schools simply ask you to check a box (Harvard), while others want to have some sense of how you plan to spend your time.  They don't expect a fully detailed plan in terms of what you will be doing, so students don't need to have it all figured out.  I encourage students, in their letter of request, to talk about some of their ideas as to how they might spend their time and offer to provide further details when they are available, but I have never heard of anyone asking for follow-up.

Your best bet is to contact your school after you have been accepted.  Explain to them why you want to take time off, why it will be beneficial, and a little bit about what you plan to do.  

How do I get credit?

The easiest way to get credit for taking time off from school is by going through one of your school’s programs.  While this website is focused on programs/opportunities beyond those academia already offers, that does not mean that you shouldn’t look into your school’s particular program.  Study abroad, internships in the US and abroad, and different work experiences are offered through most universities.  Check out your office of study abroad, career center, individual departments, or whichever resources your school has available.

If you wish to get credit through something that your university or high school is not already involved with, it may be trickier.  The best advice I can give you is to talk to a counselor or someone in your department at your particular university.  If you go in organized, with a thoughful approach and a clear plan, specific reasons why what you are doing is related to your field of study or is a valuable educational experience, and how you intend to “prove” what you did deserves credit, you have a better chance.  
         
I have found that explaining the ways in which what you are doing relates to your academic goals, and why you need to pursue your goals in the manner you have chosen (i.e. instead of going through one of the University's programs), will usually get you pretty far.  

Also look into taking online courses or enrolling in a distance education university while stepping out. This is a way to keep getting credit while doing whatever it is you are doing; you may be able to take a math and writing course online for a term while interning in D.C.  Head to the programs page for a listing of schools that offer distance ed courses, including high school courses.

See if you can take a CLEP test in what you are studying.  Over 2000 universities in the US and Canada award credit for passing these exams.  They are similar to AP tests and available at many universities.  This may be something to look into if you are studying a language abroad.  
  
Realize you may not get credit for what you do.  And realize that education is about so much more than the number of credits you rack up
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On the flip side of things, also consider whether or not you need the credit.  Do you actually need more credits to graduate?  Or are you just trying to get credit because that is what one usually gets for educational activities?   Although it can be frustrating to not get credit (and therefore the academic acknowledgement) from what may be one of your most educational experiences, realize also that credit is something you have to pay for.  Hopefully you will be learning throughout life, and, post-academia, you will not get any credit for these experiences.  

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How do I use stepping out as a resume enhancer?

The key in using stepping out as a resume enhancer, according to a number of different career counselors, is
how you articulate what it is you learned.  Here is what they have to say about it (emphases added):

Clarice Wilsey, Associate Director of Career Development Services at the University of Oregon:


I believe that almost any experience can be a positive advantage for a student in their future plans.  How that experience can be advantageous would depend on how they want to communicate the benefits to a potential employer.  If it's purely a travel experience, the experience of understanding different cultures, being independent, communicating with a variety of people, problem-solving and decision-making could be skills that the person has developed and could be beneficial to a potential employer.  If we approach an employer with what we have learned they will be less able to say...You wasted your time, why did you do that.  They will see that you are a person that is growing, learning and trying to develop through their experiences."

Donna Marino, Associate Director of Career Services, Skidmore College (New York):

Internships in [students'] fields would be viewed positively.  As might other experiences, if the message is clear.  For example, if someone traveled around Europe exploring the great museums and ancient sites, and they were interested in art history, it could be seen as a positive experience.  If they traveled around Europe, working on farms, successfully making enough money for the next leg of their trip, and they wanted to prove that they can take risks and initiative, have strong enough interpersonal skills to pick up jobs like these quickly, are diligent enough to get the job done and have a good referral for the next job, again, it could be seen as a positive experience.  

Judith Carruthers, Director of Career Development, Castleton State College (Vermont):

As the world "flattens", recruiters are looking for people with international travel experience, familiarity with other cultures, languages, etc.  Personally I do not recommend people take time off unless they have a "plan".  Having said that, I didn't start university until 31 with a grade nine education.  Seven years later, I graduated with a Masters Degree in English Literature.  I became an international business and marketing consultant, a professional cartoonist, author.  Now I am adjunct faculty and full-time Director of Career Development.  I think the eclectic background makes me a dynamite director.  So who's to say what is the "right" road.  Follow your heart.

Larry Sechney, Director of Career and Community Services, Kutztown University (Pennsylvania):

I would offer that any experience can be beneficial, but there are some things that can prove to be more helpful.  Certainly any internship or other form of experiential educational experience would be best.  Again the important question to be asked is "what did you learn via this experience?"  And don't forget the value that can be derived from volunteerism and public engagement.  
It is important to use the time constructively.  I don't care if students take a job in a paper mill or at Wal-Mart as long as they can articulate why they took the position and what they learned from it.  To take time off to work on your tan or your serve/volley isn't going to cut it!

Summary of How to Use Stepping Out as a Resume-Booster:

Understanding what it is you learned from your experiences (whether good or bad) is essential.  According to Clarice Wilsey, Associate Director of Career Development Services, University of Oregon, there are some generic skills (like interpersonal relations, problem solving, decision-making, organizing, planning, and conflict resolution) which are appropriate to a wide-range of career options.  Explaining HOW and WHAT you learned while stepping out is key.  

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How do I find programs that are right for me?

If you check out the programs section of this website, as well as the what section, you will find more information on what is out there.  In the meantime, realize there are a number of different things to take in to consideration when looking at what it is you want to do.  Here are some questions to ask yourself:
  • What are you hoping to get out of your time off?  Is it career experience?  The opportunity to see a new culture?  The experience of helping others?  Having a clear idea of your desires and goals related to stepping out will help you focus in on a program or programs.
  • How organized/structured do you want your time to be?  Some programs will have an on-site person there to help you out, and may have structured activities scheduled for the majority of the time.  Other programs may simply tell you: here is a class of twenty five kids, teach them English.  Decide how much structure you want, and then research different opportunities.
  •  How much are you willing to spend?  Some organizations may charge $5000 for a month-long venture, but this sum could include airfare, a guide, health insurance, and language instruction.  Others may expect you to pay for everything.  Some cover room and board.  Decide what it is you want to spend and go from there.  Realize that in some ways, you pay for what you get.  If you want structure and security, go with an organization that charges more but includes these aspects.  If you do not want to pay an overhead fee, and you have the initiative to work with what is thrown at you, then try volunteering for a local NGO (non-government organization) wherever it is you end up.  
    
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Checklist before I step out..

Here is a short checklist of some things to think about before stepping out.  By no means is it a complete list; instead, use it to start thinking about all the little steps involved.
  •  Have I talked this over with my parents?
  •  Do I know what I want to get out of this experience?
  •  Do I know what I am going to do when I get back? (i.e.  Have I applied for college/grad school already?  If not, when will I fill out the application?)
  • Do I have health insurance?  (If your parents have health insurance, check to make sure you will still be covered under them when you step out).
  • Have I left an itinerary with someone? (i.e. Is there at least one person who knows where I am?)
  • For those leaving the country: Did I leave a copy of my passport, bank cards, and other important documents with someone?  Do I have a way to access these as well?  Do I have a list of emergency numbers (including my bank customer service number)?
  • Do I have enough money for this? Do I have a back-up plan if I run out of money?
  • Have I done my research on the place I’m going to?  The program I’m working for?  Do I have a back-up plan?
  • Did I pack enough clean underwear?  
  • Will my financial aid continue when I return to school?
  • Do I have a way to reach people at home?  Have I figured out how often, if ever, I will be checking in with my parents and/or friends?

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